The current black cultural milieu is one which has been essentially decided by black males. It has specific features to it that simply align with 'what black men want to do'.
I was watching a video a few days ago where a young black man had punched out an older black man at a train station somewhere in the USA.The Video has done the rounds with many people cursing out the young black man and pronouncing that Karma would be sure to visit him soon. The thing that caught my attention however was a young lady on the train who goes from a state of surprise at the black man's actions but then suddenly becomes caught up in the reactions of those giving kudos and laughing at the old mans fate. Very soon she too was making similar noises, laughing and joking about what is clearly a horrific event.
It made me think deeply about how black women get swept up into black men's agenda, especially their very selfish agenda and instead of pushing back or raising a standard against these men's activities they get caught up and become cheer leaders, nurses, supporters of black male culture including co-signing, black women hating activities like their loudly proclaimed preferences for non-black women.
Many BWE writers have spoken about black women keeping a very large distance from the current crop of black men and I think this is wise, however some of us will not be able to flee that far, maybe because we live in a small compact city or our work environment include these men. There are a number of attitudes of mind that can save a black woman the heart ache of disappointment and dashed dreams.
A solitary black man at work may not show black male cultural to a high degree but when two or three black men are in a place they will generate 'black male culture.' If there are a couple pf besotted clueless black women fawning over them the black culture vide will magnify. You will need to recognise black male cultural attributes and features in order to successfully navigate it.
The first thing to understand about black male culture is that it is antagonistic to black womanhood. Deeply. The downfall and humiliation of black women among spectators of other races and ethnicities is a coveted goal.
I don't notice this tendency among newly arrived African Migrant communities but the average metropolitan black male will look for the chinks in any black female colleagues armour. And black women make it all too easy for them with their trusting, deferential and even adoring approach to anything black male.
Second and relatedly, black males are totally self aggrandizing. It is not about race, community, black family. It is about No 1. I was recently reading an article with the actor David Oyelowo talking about the lack of diversity and in every place where he said 'black actor,' I knew he simply meant black male actor. When these men 'make it' you can be sure their wealth will not directly make the life of a black woman comfortable and happy.
|David Oyelowo and Family|
There is no trickle down or trickle around effect when black men hop on all these 'diversity' trains created to help black people out.
One reason why black people remain 'down' isn't because of racism, it is because black men have become drain-away-pipes to wealth and resources which are suppose to circulate and enrich the proverbial black community. Many white folk are now tired of 'black programs', and are running out of patients because none of them 'take.' Instead black folks come back with more 'demands' and 'grievances'.
Black men feed off everyone else's sympathy (and are quite good in manipulating black women's emotions and sympathy). They are very good at engendering sympathy and support for their plight and thus becoming the focus for a whole bunch of money and resources to 'help him out'. Meanwhile black women are suffering more and even getting crushed under the heels of these same black males that generate so much concern among white and other folks. Black men are very good at turning all sorts of programs devoted to equality and levelling the playing field towards one of personal gain and even making black women look like one of the oppressors to boot!
To be continued